Monday, May 26, 2008

Compromise

Compromise [1com·pro·mise]: concept of finding agreement through communication, through a mutual acceptance of terms—often involving variations from an original goal or desire
At an early age we all learn the very essence of this word. Whether it is a deal we made with a friend to share toys in the toy box, an agreement we made with a sibling to share something or maybe even a parent, in order to watch tv a little longer. It is part of life. If you do this, I will do this or vise versa. No one person can exactly have everything what they want. That is just not reality and besides if you did have everything the exact way that you wanted, wouldn't it be boring? So even as we learn at an early age that we must share and compromise we sometimes tend to lose the ability to do this as we become adults. In a way, I think we act more cihldren. It is almost like I want it my way and I want it now. While everyone has there argument for why their stance is the best, often no side is at fault or differs that greatly from the other. It is just that when you are dealing with people you have to try to mesh personalities, lifestyles, habits and so on, into one cohesive unit.
Sometimes a compromise can not be reached. I mean lets be realistic this is just the way life goes. Personally though I think that before this concession is made that everything should have been done before everything is scrapped and people go their serperate ways.
Giving in, listening, compromising, standing your ground... these are all things that people do when they are in love especially and it is not easy. I mean come on, if it were everyone would be in love and happily married ever-after. Sometimes people though think it is far to easy to just walk away.
As with most things in life, if it is worth having it is worth fighting for. Remember the happiest time, the laughter whatever. Then think about the thing that is driving a wedge between you and that other person and see if it equals out.
"For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else."

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